Before the birth of our first child, my career aspirations took third place… Jesus, husband, career. When our baby daughter Shawn passed within a month, the order changed… Jesus, husband, children, career.

Prior to giving birth to our second child Branden, my husband and I decided that I would be a “stay-at-home” mom. I grew up in a home where my mom and dad prioritized family and decided once children came into the picture, mom stayed home. I remember all the benefits derived from their decision. So, I did it for five years until Branden and his younger brother, Ryan attended the same schools and grew mature enough to verbalize anything to me. Together, we all agreed on the time for me to return to work. Even when I worked outside of the home, my focus on them took precedence.

The label of a “stay-at-home” mom elicits many opinions and views, mostly negative. But they stem from ignorance, not knowledge or wisdom. I hear many mothers respond with this statement when asked what they do. “I am just a ‘stay-at-home’ mom.” What really fuels my disappointment in their view of themselves comes from the word “just.” The word lessens the value of their role and its impact. I correct them by saying, “You are Not just a “stay-at-home” mom. Motherhood is a ministry and marks a worthy season-a life-changing one for you and the little gifts God placed in your care.”

Most mothers fail to view their roles as ministry, whether they work inside or outside of the home. They neglect to embrace the importance of this season, especially during the younger years. Yes, the struggles of multiple feedings, thousands of diaper changes, heart wrenching crying, doctor visits, homework monitoring, chauffeur duties, and playing exist.

But all of these dwindle in the precious hugs, kisses, bedtime stories, singing together, squeals of laughter, and knowing you, not the world, planted God’s truth and values in your children. What a significant role God gave you. He sees you and honors what you do even if the world lacks comprehension of your ministry. Remain faithful to it and witness His faithfulness to you!

So, if you work inside your home, you are not just a “stay-at-home” mom! Research indicates that motherhood equates to holding down two and a half full time jobs, so go ahead and ask for that raise (LOL)! Be encouraged… this season counts. Know you make a difference by selflessly and tirelessly pouring your efforts into the next generation.

If you live in this season, ignore the nay-sayers. Or better yet, when someone asks you, “What do you do?” respond joyfully with, “I’m involved in the ministry of motherhood! I’m raising God’s next generation of believers!”

We tend to honor achievements in less than important areas, yet fail to extend accolades for mothers who give or gave willingly and tirelessly to guide us in the right direction. I challenge you this Mother’s Day to make an intentional effort to honor a mother who ministered to you, whether she worked inside and/or outside the home.

I don’t know about you, but I’m thankful for my time spent as a “stay-at-home” mom. I embraced it fully and despite the challenges, God proved faithful to me as I remained faithful to the ministry. I am a witness to the fruits of my labor. My daughter-in-love, Dani, lives in this season now and I encourage her to cherish the moments. I joyfully watch my grandchildren grow in the knowledge and love of Jesus Christ, and I rest assured that they will embrace our Christian values. Why? Simply …

“Her children rise up and bless her; Her husband also and he praises her, saying;
‘Many daughters have done nobly, But you excel them all.’”
Proverbs 31:28-29

For all of the mothers entering this season, living in this season, and out of this season… Happy Mother’s Day! May God richly bless you for fulfilling the ministry of Motherhood!

Not Just a Stay-at-Home Mom